Stay Your Course

Wonder why people keep treating you the same way as they always have, even when it's clear you're trying to change?
 
When you're actively doing things differently, trying to live a life more aligned with who you really are, one of the biggest obstacles can be how others react.
 
If you try to better yourself, some will warn you not to expect too much. They mean well. They want to protect you from disappointment.
 
Or when you start to prioritise time for yourself, others may get resentful and push back. They might even call you selfish. They're just used to you always putting them first.
 
So, what do you do? 🤔
 
First, you can choose how to react. Expect that as you change, others won't. They may, as I just mentioned, actively try to stop you from changing. If you expect that reaction, it won't be a surprise when you run into it.
 
Choose not to be surprised. And then choose not to be steered off course.
 
Remember this phrase that I...
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Podcast on The Sam & Jo VA Show

These two women are amazing! They literally have no fear. They've partnered not just on uniting and educating Virtual Assistants, but also have started a new podcast.

They invited me on to talk about tips from finding your authentic voice and how to "stand out". Obviously, these apply to anyone, not just VAs. 

You can listen to the podcast here.

https://pod.co/the-sam-and-jo-va-show/14-how-to-distinguish-yourself-from-other-vas

And here are some shortcuts for you:

Who admits to feeling imposter syndrome? @ 1:15
Why New Zealand was such an easy place to move @ 3:50
How Sam learned how important it is just to be yourself @ 4:59
Why you feel vulnerable putting yourself "out there" @ 5:33
How to reframe drawing attention to yourself @ 6:10
How to identify your combination of skills and strengths @ 7:00
Why it's important to ask others what you're best at @ 10:00
What is the POP Process? How can it help you? @ 10:30
What do you put in LinkedIn summaries & bios?...
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Time to Start Popping

If you know me, you’ll know that I’ve been talking about bubbles for a few years now. 

It’s not because I had a crystal ball and could see the future when bubbles would become part of our everyday vocabulary. It’s obviously because my company is called POP.

In the work that I do, I talk about how we often try to protect ourselves in bubbles when we feel threatened by challenges in our lives: 

  • when we face a career crossroads

  • when our self-worth has taken a hit

  • when we feel less than compared to others

  • when we feel like our true value isn’t being recognised

  • when we feel unfulfilled, unsatisfied and unsure about our future

That’s a long list. Which means there’s a lot of hiding going on.

As we now know, of course, hiding in our bubbles can be a reasonable response, but only in the short term. Because our bubbles can end up trapping us if we don’t have the courage to pop them when it’s time. 

These are the...

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Reinvention Interview on "A Fresh Agenda" Podcast

I was lucky enough to connect with a former "rival" news anchor. Well she wasn't my rival, our TV stations competed one against one another We recently reconnected to discuss how we are all re-evaluating how we want our lives to look going forward. 

We had a chat about work/life balance during and after a news career.

Click below to listen!

https://soundcloud.com/afreshagenda/84-pallas-hupe-cotter-make

And here are some shortcuts for you:

4:30: Why I left the news business
6:45: How I started to reinvent
8:50: How I integrated into New Zealand society
10:30: The recurring dream that I had until I moved
14:00: A summary of the POP Process®
15:00: What kind of chocolates Cristina and I are 🙂
16:14: My mission in life...
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