Stay Your Course

Wonder why people keep treating you the same way as they always have, even when it's clear you're trying to change?
 
When you're actively doing things differently, trying to live a life more aligned with who you really are, one of the biggest obstacles can be how others react.
 
If you try to better yourself, some will warn you not to expect too much. They mean well. They want to protect you from disappointment.
 
Or when you start to prioritise time for yourself, others may get resentful and push back. They might even call you selfish. They're just used to you always putting them first.
 
So, what do you do? 🤔
 
First, you can choose how to react. Expect that as you change, others won't. They may, as I just mentioned, actively try to stop you from changing. If you expect that reaction, it won't be a surprise when you run into it.
 
Choose not to be surprised. And then choose not to be steered off course.
 
Remember this phrase that I...
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Podcast on The Sam & Jo VA Show

These two women are amazing! They literally have no fear. They've partnered not just on uniting and educating Virtual Assistants, but also have started a new podcast.

They invited me on to talk about tips from finding your authentic voice and how to "stand out". Obviously, these apply to anyone, not just VAs. 

You can listen to the podcast here.

https://pod.co/the-sam-and-jo-va-show/14-how-to-distinguish-yourself-from-other-vas

And here are some shortcuts for you:

Who admits to feeling imposter syndrome? @ 1:15
Why New Zealand was such an easy place to move @ 3:50
How Sam learned how important it is just to be yourself @ 4:59
Why you feel vulnerable putting yourself "out there" @ 5:33
How to reframe drawing attention to yourself @ 6:10
How to identify your combination of skills and strengths @ 7:00
Why it's important to ask others what you're best at @ 10:00
What is the POP Process? How can it help you? @ 10:30
What do you put in LinkedIn summaries & bios?...
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TV Interview in Sacramento

Wondering how different the perspective between New Zealand and the US regarding COVID19? A former colleague from TV News reached out to me to ask what it's been like living in our southern hemisphere bubble and watching what's happening in the rest of the world. 

Watch it here...

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Time to Start Popping

If you know me, you’ll know that I’ve been talking about bubbles for a few years now. 

It’s not because I had a crystal ball and could see the future when bubbles would become part of our everyday vocabulary. It’s obviously because my company is called POP.

In the work that I do, I talk about how we often try to protect ourselves in bubbles when we feel threatened by challenges in our lives: 

  • when we face a career crossroads

  • when our self-worth has taken a hit

  • when we feel less than compared to others

  • when we feel like our true value isn’t being recognised

  • when we feel unfulfilled, unsatisfied and unsure about our future

That’s a long list. Which means there’s a lot of hiding going on.

As we now know, of course, hiding in our bubbles can be a reasonable response, but only in the short term. Because our bubbles can end up trapping us if we don’t have the courage to pop them when it’s time. 

These are the...

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Reinvention Interview on "A Fresh Agenda" Podcast

I was lucky enough to connect with a former "rival" news anchor. Well she wasn't my rival, our TV stations competed one against one another We recently reconnected to discuss how we are all re-evaluating how we want our lives to look going forward. 

We had a chat about work/life balance during and after a news career.

Click below to listen!

https://soundcloud.com/afreshagenda/84-pallas-hupe-cotter-make

And here are some shortcuts for you:

4:30: Why I left the news business
6:45: How I started to reinvent
8:50: How I integrated into New Zealand society
10:30: The recurring dream that I had until I moved
14:00: A summary of the POP Process®
15:00: What kind of chocolates Cristina and I are 🙂
16:14: My mission in life...
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New Make Your Life POP eBook!

I'm excited to share my new eBook, to help anyone facing the COVID challenge or any turning point in life, if you're wondering which way now?
 
If you've reassessed how you're living, and what you're doing and decided (or been forced to) realign or reinvent, this book gives you a step-by-step way to redefine who you are, what you want to do and position yourself for success.
 
It's designed to help build personal and professional resilience in a short and sweet way (you'll see what I mean when you read it). 
 
Find out how to get yours free, for limited time, here...
 
If it's past the free window (from June 2020, it's still affordable, and you can get the book here!)
 
 
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Popping Bubbles

It is decreed. We’re allowed to hug again! At least a few people we know and love. I wrote in March about how big a challenge it would be for people like me to stop short of giving people we greet a quick squeeze. I vowed to hold back, and imagine a bubble around me. 

Little did I know bubbles would become a thing!

Now I’m wondering what the future might hold, beyond a hesitant hugs and handshakes. 

I’m still trying to catch up with everything we’ve been experiencing in the past few weeks:

 

Slow Start: our brains have struggled since the start to keep up with reality. We heard the news out of China, and watched it as if it were a movie. We still travelled, attended conferences, hung out in crowds. Then it finally started to sink in. A little late, but we got it just as it became clear that COVID19 was here.

Pandemic Perfectionism: not long after we started to wrap our brains around what being in a bubble would look and feel like, we were...

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Communication Conundrum

When I worked in the news business, I used to laugh when things went wrong because of a failure of communication. The irony!

However, communicating, especially under pressure (as newsrooms always are) is a continuing challenge. Right now, as we work remotely, in an atmosphere of fear and uncertainty, our communication skills are being put to the test like never before.

Here are some tips to minimise the mistakes:

1) Over-communicate: people can't hear as well when they're stressed. Make sure your messages are repeated. In the news, we'd say: tell them what you're going to tell them, tell them, tell them what you told them. Then the message gets through.

2) Keep messages simple: read and re-read and edit and re-edit what you write (and read it out loud, if you're going to deliver it verbally). Get straight to the point. Don't make it hard for others to understand what you want to convey. Don't waste their time.

3) Be careful with your tone: remember, short AND sweet. Start by...

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Resilience Interview with Humphrey Hanley

What does resilience look like?

With so much talk about #resilience during this #COVID19 challenge, I wanted to talk to one of the most resilient people I know.
 
Humphrey has a condition that essentially means he has no hands and yet...he is a freelance multimedia content creator, has his own YouTube channel where he works with a personal trainer (NoHandsNoExcuses) and even ran for public office!
 
Watch and find out more of his incredible story...
And here are some shortcuts for you:

Learn about the challenge Humphrey Hanley faces @ 1:51
Learn how he keeps going despite facing challenges @ 2:49
Learn how job loss was a chance to pursue his passion @ 6:16
Learn how he manages to stay positive and motivated @ 7:51
Learn why "resilience is survival" is no exaggeration @ 9:56
Learn how he was uniquely prepared for isolation @ 12:23
Learn why he doesn't hesitate to ask for help @ 13:52
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Home Hamster Wheels: How not to get hectic during lockdown

Uncategorized Apr 02, 2020

The sounds of my facetime ringing or facebook messenger dinging or news alerts buzzing now act as my alarm most mornings. I spend my first couple of hours catching up on updates and then messaging friends and loved ones, including regular online check-ins with my 80+ year old parents.

Then come the emails. 

I now find myself sifting through a barrage of well-intended informational briefings from companies, including some I’m only tangentially connected with. Like the manufacturer of the dishwasher I bought last year, offering me detailed information about what their company is doing to protect their employees and what I should do if my dishwasher breaks down. I’m thinking, maybe hand wash my dishes and let the service techs shelter in place too? (Except, of course, to respond to hospitals and other front line service providers. They need their dishwashers to keep running.) 

This flood of information I’m seeing also includes newsletters and social media...

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