Why Passion Isn’t Enough: The Case for Purpose, Perseverance and Proactivity

Uncategorized Apr 22, 2021

A recent Entrepreneur's Handbook article, quoted researchers from Harvard who tossed cold water on the idea that we need to be passionate about what we do in order to be successful.

As passion is part of my business title (POP stands for the Power of Passion, and Purpose and Personality), this caught my attention.

Poo-pooing passion is not new. Lots of commentators believe that passion is not just over-rated, but over-weighted.

Alan Trapulionis, the author of the article, defines both passion and purpose in this way:

“Passion is when you’re excited to see a new episode of your favourite show.

Passion is when you’re getting goosebumps listening to a song.

Passion is when you’re doing things for the sake of doing them.

Purpose is the opposite of that.

Purpose is when you’re *not* eating that box of doughnuts because you want to look good after the pandemic is over.

Purpose is when you’re so anxious you’re going to be sick, but you still...

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Be The Pot Roast

My father is particularly good at what I call "sticky storytelling": telling memorable stories to teach important life-lessons. He does this when we're online just talking, but he probably doesn't realise that I often take notes...and later find a way to use them!

A while ago, when I was preparing to present a speech about uncertainty (long before COVID was a thing), I decided to share one of my Dad's sticky-stories.

We’d been talking about ‘going with the flow’ in life, when he mentioned having a dream about a juicy, perfectly browned, succulent pot roast that was so tender, the meat fell off the bone. Only he was the pot roast. And he happened to be floating down a stream in the dream.  When he struggled against the current, and fought where it was trying to take him, he started to fall apart.

When I was looking for stories to weave through my ‘uncertainty’ speech, that pot roast image kept coming back. Maybe...
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Stay Your Course

Wonder why people keep treating you the same way as they always have, even when it's clear you're trying to change?
 
When you're actively doing things differently, trying to live a life more aligned with who you really are, one of the biggest obstacles can be how others react.
 
If you try to better yourself, some will warn you not to expect too much. They mean well. They want to protect you from disappointment.
 
Or when you start to prioritise time for yourself, others may get resentful and push back. They might even call you selfish. They're just used to you always putting them first.
 
So, what do you do? 🤔
 
First, you can choose how to react. Expect that as you change, others won't. They may, as I just mentioned, actively try to stop you from changing. If you expect that reaction, it won't be a surprise when you run into it.
 
Choose not to be surprised. And then choose not to be steered off course.
 
Remember this phrase that I...
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Podcast on The Sam & Jo VA Show

These two women are amazing! They literally have no fear. They've partnered not just on uniting and educating Virtual Assistants, but also have started a new podcast.

They invited me on to talk about tips from finding your authentic voice and how to "stand out". Obviously, these apply to anyone, not just VAs. 

You can listen to the podcast here.

https://pod.co/the-sam-and-jo-va-show/14-how-to-distinguish-yourself-from-other-vas

And here are some shortcuts for you:

Who admits to feeling imposter syndrome? @ 1:15
Why New Zealand was such an easy place to move @ 3:50
How Sam learned how important it is just to be yourself @ 4:59
Why you feel vulnerable putting yourself "out there" @ 5:33
How to reframe drawing attention to yourself @ 6:10
How to identify your combination of skills and strengths @ 7:00
Why it's important to ask others what you're best at @ 10:00
What is the POP Process? How can it help you? @ 10:30
What do you put in LinkedIn summaries & bios?...
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TV Interview in Sacramento

Wondering how different the perspective between New Zealand and the US regarding COVID19? A former colleague from TV News reached out to me to ask what it's been like living in our southern hemisphere bubble and watching what's happening in the rest of the world. 

Watch it here...

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Time to Start Popping

If you know me, you’ll know that I’ve been talking about bubbles for a few years now. 

It’s not because I had a crystal ball and could see the future when bubbles would become part of our everyday vocabulary. It’s obviously because my company is called POP.

In the work that I do, I talk about how we often try to protect ourselves in bubbles when we feel threatened by challenges in our lives: 

  • when we face a career crossroads

  • when our self-worth has taken a hit

  • when we feel less than compared to others

  • when we feel like our true value isn’t being recognised

  • when we feel unfulfilled, unsatisfied and unsure about our future

That’s a long list. Which means there’s a lot of hiding going on.

As we now know, of course, hiding in our bubbles can be a reasonable response, but only in the short term. Because our bubbles can end up trapping us if we don’t have the courage to pop them when it’s time. 

These are the...

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Reinvention Interview on "A Fresh Agenda" Podcast

I was lucky enough to connect with a former "rival" news anchor. Well she wasn't my rival, our TV stations competed one against one another We recently reconnected to discuss how we are all re-evaluating how we want our lives to look going forward. 

We had a chat about work/life balance during and after a news career.

Click below to listen!

https://soundcloud.com/afreshagenda/84-pallas-hupe-cotter-make

And here are some shortcuts for you:

4:30: Why I left the news business
6:45: How I started to reinvent
8:50: How I integrated into New Zealand society
10:30: The recurring dream that I had until I moved
14:00: A summary of the POP Process®
15:00: What kind of chocolates Cristina and I are 🙂
16:14: My mission in life...
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New Make Your Life POP eBook!

I'm excited to share my new eBook, to help anyone facing the COVID challenge or any turning point in life, if you're wondering which way now?
 
If you've reassessed how you're living, and what you're doing and decided (or been forced to) realign or reinvent, this book gives you a step-by-step way to redefine who you are, what you want to do and position yourself for success.
 
It's designed to help build personal and professional resilience in a short and sweet way (you'll see what I mean when you read it). 
 
Find out how to get yours free, for limited time, here...
 
If it's past the free window (from June 2020, it's still affordable, and you can get the book here!)
 
 
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Popping Bubbles

It is decreed. We’re allowed to hug again! At least a few people we know and love. I wrote in March about how big a challenge it would be for people like me to stop short of giving people we greet a quick squeeze. I vowed to hold back, and imagine a bubble around me. 

Little did I know bubbles would become a thing!

Now I’m wondering what the future might hold, beyond a hesitant hugs and handshakes. 

I’m still trying to catch up with everything we’ve been experiencing in the past few weeks:

 

Slow Start: our brains have struggled since the start to keep up with reality. We heard the news out of China, and watched it as if it were a movie. We still travelled, attended conferences, hung out in crowds. Then it finally started to sink in. A little late, but we got it just as it became clear that COVID19 was here.

Pandemic Perfectionism: not long after we started to wrap our brains around what being in a bubble would look and feel like, we were...

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Communication Conundrum

When I worked in the news business, I used to laugh when things went wrong because of a failure of communication. The irony!

However, communicating, especially under pressure (as newsrooms always are) is a continuing challenge. Right now, as we work remotely, in an atmosphere of fear and uncertainty, our communication skills are being put to the test like never before.

Here are some tips to minimise the mistakes:

1) Over-communicate: people can't hear as well when they're stressed. Make sure your messages are repeated. In the news, we'd say: tell them what you're going to tell them, tell them, tell them what you told them. Then the message gets through.

2) Keep messages simple: read and re-read and edit and re-edit what you write (and read it out loud, if you're going to deliver it verbally). Get straight to the point. Don't make it hard for others to understand what you want to convey. Don't waste their time.

3) Be careful with your tone: remember, short AND sweet. Start by...

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